5 Questions To Ask Your Inner Child

Everyone remembers a lot about their childhood. Even if it’s just bits and pieces of it.

There were happy times, sad times, frustrating times, and even very challenging times.

It’s part and parcel of growing up into an adult.

And sometimes, some moments during childhood lodges itself onto our minds and repeat itself visually every now and then.

If you are lucky, these events that keep replaying in your mind are positively charged moments of life. But for many, these can be very uncomfortable or traumatic experiences that affects the decisions they make as adults.

It can also heavily influence the personality and persona that an individual chooses to identify with.

Which is why more and more parents these days wrap their kids in cotton wool to protect them… because the parents themselves are affected by past events and don’t want their children to be negatively affected by childhood memories as well.

For example, we often watch movies with plots where a character felt guilty about causing a car accident that killed the parents. This then made them behave as if they don’t deserve any love.

Then there are those with daddy issues who become overly emotional when triggered, or just cannot find peace from within.

These problems are actually very real in real life to a lot of people. And those who are fortunate enough to have avoided them as a child can sometimes be very grateful for that.

But other than very disturbing experiences, much lesser significant events can often also affect our actions as adults.

For example, giving up on something at the first sign of trouble. A man with the fear of talking to women. A person who afraid of communicating with authoritative figures. Etc.

These blockages can stop our own personal development. Preventing us from progress and becoming the best version of us possible.

And this is when we might need to address that inner child that lives inside us so as to seek closure, move on and move forward with life.

It’s worth repeating now that everyone has an inner child within. And you should not feel embarrassed in any sense to admit that.

Because only when you acknowledge and accept this, can you start to address the issue at hand.

This self-development problem has become so widespread these days that inner child healing practices have become very popular.

And it always starts with what question you should ask your inner child.

1) What are you fascinated with?

This question helps to uncover what motivates you and what piques your interest.

It is usually used to rediscover what a person is passionate about when work or life has become too mundane.

You wake up in the morning staring at emptiness. And have to literally drag yourself up to go to work at an office you despise, so that you can work with people you dislike, on things that disinterest you.

2) What are you fearful of?

This is not a question about the boogeyman, werewolves or Darth Vader.

It is deeper than that.

Some people fear disapproval from the people around them, some feel ashamed when their friends criticize them, some feel anxiety when they are alone, etc.

You need to get to the source of your fears.

For example, if you get nervous when you are unable to connect to a data network, think about why. Is it because you fear being left out and becoming irrelevant to your social circle? Which indirectly reflects your low value?

This is the type of question for those who find themselves unable to act on certain things when taking action if fully expected and justified.

3) What do you want your parents to know about you?

If you’ve lost a parent, you’d know that feeling of regret over not telling them something particular about you.

It could be about how much you really loved them, how big a role they have played for you to become who you are, or that you were really the culprit whole stole an extra piece from the cookie jar.

It might be too late to now, but you can find some kind of closure by talking to your inner child about it.

And if your parents are still around, I urge you to talk to them once you received the answer from your inner child.

Even if your relationship with them is nor as cordial or friendly as you’d like, your only chance of telling them what you want them to know about you is when they are alive.

Forget about your ego, forget about the facade that you constantly put up in front of them, and forget about how you think they may see you differently.

Go tell them. Or you will be thinking about it with regret when they are gone.

4) How do you picture yourself as an adult?

This question is meant to measure how well you have fared according to yourself.

As an adult, you might measure yourself with wealth. But this is after you have been soaked in the material world for years.

It is only when you are young and naive do you really know who you want to be at it’s core when you grow up.

For example, if you saw yourself as a person with high integrity and head held high wherever you go, then you have really disappointed your inner child when you walk around with your head down all the time in the office as you are ashamed of some of the things you did.

Maybe be betrayed someone’s trust among your friends, maybe you feel that you have not done as much as you could have to care for someone, maybe you did something despicable at work, or maybe you feel that you have gone on the wrong path towards spirituality, etc.

If you have failed to live up to the expectations of your younger self, then maybe it’s time to reevaluate what you value and make it right.

5) If you knew that I’d turn out like this, what would you change? Or what decisions would you have made differently?

This is like an appraisal question to accept where you are now, and realize that every action in any moment and change the course of how life turns out. Meaning that you can still shape and carve out your life the way you want.

Too many people accept how their lives turned out as if submitting defeat.

Even more feel that they are too old to effect a change. This can actually be understandable as the life expectancy these days is about 78 in developed nations.

But we only live this life once. Even if rebirth is real, there’s little chance that we would be taking our consciousness to the next life. So we only have this one shot to make the most of this life.

The sooner one hits that epiphany, the more you will be motivated to make the most of life. And the less likely you will have regrets when you are unable to make a difference anymore.

Remember that everybody has an inner child. And talking to yours is one of the most important steps to healing your innerself.